On rape

This story is a bit hard for me to share because it's pretty damned embarrassing and I feel ashamed about the story itself, but back in August of 2000, I was raped.  I know, I know, I'm a dude and dude's can't get raped but this one can and did.
See, back in August 2000, yours truly tried to kill himself by overdosing on sleeping pills and aspirin and I very nearly pulled it off.  Actually flatlined for nearly 15 minutes I was told.  When I awoke in the ICU several days later (I had been in a coma), my memories were gone and my body was weak as a kitten.  Several friends I had made in Toronto where this happened dutifully watched over me and one of them, a woman in her middle 40s offered to put me up while I recovered and though my memories of these folk were sketchy, in my state I really had no other choice so I ended up at her place (I'll just call her Judy though that's not her real name and yes, I know her real name to this day first and last).
Anyway, "Judy" was always picking up guys to have casual sex with because she smoked a lot of pot which made her horny as all hell.  So just a few days being there, she wanted to have sex with miserable me all layed up on her couch and in no condition to even think about who I was, let alone sex.  She asked if I wanted it, I said no.  She started rubbing my crotch and I tried to push her hands away but, as I said, me near death left me drained and weak.  She forced her hands on my crotch.  I said no and she proceeded to unzip me as she used her body weight to keep me from moving.  She began performing head on me and I was begging her to stop.  She did, but not for the reasons I had hoped.  Instead she got a condom, put it on me and started to ride away.  I started to cry.  I felt ashamed, I couldn't look up because I just wanted to block this all out of my mind and pretend it wasn't happening.  She saw me crying and told me to stop it but I kept crying because nothing like this had ever happened to me before.  I felt helpless and weak and blamed myself for being helpless and weak, for allowing this to happen, though there was literally nothing I could do to stop it.  The few minutes this had happened seemed like hours and the pain of the moment only made me cry harder.  Finally my tears won out and she stopped, telling me I should leave soon if I wouldn't give her sex. 
So why am I mentioning any of this? 
To me, all rape is forcible rape and rape takes many ugly forms.  My own experience has left a mark and haunts me on occasion to this day and though I've had that experience I still can't know or imagine what a woman goes through when she is raped.  It's impossible to.  I'm not a woman.  I interpreted my experience through a man's eyes and with a man's emotions.  Yet for the last month or so, I've been reading a lot about the Republican obsession with rape and how they want to redefine it across the nation.  Most of these bills are by men, the majority of those sponsoring these bills are men.  They do this, they admit, because they hate abortions but abortion has nothing to do with rape.  Rape is rape and victims are victims, not mere "accusers" as Georgia Rep. Bobby Franklin would have us believe.  But to the GOP rape that leads to pregnancy is a gift of life from God and that baby must be born into this world no matter how psychologically or emotionally traumatizing it is for the woman in question.  They don't give a rats ass if your 13 year old daughter or mentally handicapped sister or date raped cousin are victims, they are solely focused on the fetus, as if that parasitic glob of cells were the real victim in these tragic circumstances.  That would be like me saying we should redefine arson and setting fire to your house.  You want to put the fire out but --haha!-- you can't because it is no longer arson so you take that fire to term!
Outlandish?  You bet!  Stupid?  Absolutely!  Yet this is the same rationale the Republicans are following and to them it's perfectly reasonable, showing just how out of touch with the realities we average common American men and women must face in our daily lives.
So to borrow from Bill Maher, new rule: If you don't have a vagina, you don't get a say in what constitutes rape or when abortions are okay or not.  Women are not chattel that you can treat like property though many of you Republicans sure do like to think so and women's issues should be left up to women, not some clueless, rich white guys in Congress.